Women’s Personal Safety Secrets – Trust Your Gut Feelings – The 5th Personal Safety Secret For Women

Women are familiar with intuition. We often just know things without any background support information. Sometimes we visualize an outcome, sometimes we hear what seems to be a silent answer to a question, sometimes we physically feel the correct thing to do and sometimes we just know without knowing how we know.

Intuition is also called gut feelings and the good news is that men, teens and kids can use gut feelings just as women do, to be safer and make good choices. Since women are the biggest cheerleaders for the safety of their loved ones, let’s make sure we are clear about how gut feelings work and how to use them to our advantage.

About Gut Feelings

  • Survival instincts we were born with
  • Their job is to keep us alive
  • They are personal to each individual
  • No need to compare as they may be opposite of someone else’s gut feelings
  • What may be safe for you may not be for your friend, co-worker and vice versa
  • They are either good or bad (indifferent can be put in the good category)
  • You have them about every person, place and situation in your life
  • The key is to listen, feel, see and follow them when they are strongest
  • Following them always is a great idea but rarely done

Examples of Gut Feelings

  • You meet someone for the first time and like them instantly
  • You meet someone for the first time and dislike them without knowing why
  • Someone tells you something and you have a feeling it is untrue
  • You have a decision to make and although info points to one choice, you feel the other is best
  • You know something is going to turn out a certain way without evidence to support it
  • You get a creepy feeling about someone and know they are unsafe for you to be near

Acknowledging Your Gut Feelings

You may not have realized that you always have gut feelings about everything in your life. To prove this, think of someone you love and notice the first feeling or sense you have about that person. Next, think of someone who is dis-empowering or weakens you and notice what you feel, hear or sense. Although these feelings may come from already knowing these people, this exercise demonstrates how opposite gut feelings feel.

A vital part of living safely emotionally is knowing what and who strengthens you and what or who weakens you. Obviously, you cannot live your best life by immersing yourself in that which weakens you. Gut feelings are the perfect way to determine where you should be, what you should be doing and who you should allow in your life. My article on the #4 Personal Safety Secret for Women on Personal Boundaries is a must read if this interests you.

How Using Gut Feelings Creates Your Safer Future

By acknowledging gut feelings and realizing how often you have them, yours will become finely tuned. This is the absolute best way to live safer but you have to also follow them!

Example: You and your daughter are walking into the grocery store. A woman in the store prompts a bad gut feeling in you and you can tell that your daughter is uncomfortable as well. The woman asks you a question. Do you ignore your bad gut feeling so as not to offend her and answer her question against your better judgment? Remember, although she may not be an axe murdered, your gut feelings are survival instincts you were born with! Besides, if someone gives you the creeps, if anyone should be offended, it should be you.

So what should you do? Pretend you did not hear the question or excuse yourself and walk away quickly, pretend to get a phone call, etc. Your safety and that of your daughter are most important, period.

It could be that you answer the woman’s question and nothing bad happens. That’s great, but what about next time? What did you just demonstrate for your daughter to model later? Probably that it is important to be polite at any cost and that other people are more important than you are. These are subliminal messages, for the most part, but crucial to personal safety. Consider that this situation was a quiz, preparing you or your daughter for a bigger test in the future. Will you pass? Will she?

Why We Often Ignore Our Gut Feelings

The above example illustrates the very reason we so often put ourselves into dangerous situations emotionally and physically by ignoring our gut feelings. We, as women, are taught to always be polite and help others. That’s great but we make ourselves so vulnerable that we have no protection at all! We become so concerned that people won’t like us or that we will offend someone that we gloss over our survival instincts in favor of our delicate self-esteem.

New Trends in Women’s Shoes

No matter how well dressed a woman is, if she has her shoes wrong, her whole look can fall apart. Trendy, cool shoes play a very crucial role in any woman’s wardrobe. This is because it doesn’t matter whether you are a diva, a corporate honcho or a stay at home mother, the shoes you wear say a lot about you. That is why when it comes to shoes, you must consider the latest, but adopt only the most comfortable. To help you choose the right kind of cool shoes this season, here are a few tips and trends to consider:

Go for metal toe shoes

Good for outdoor activities these shoes are sturdy, solid, and provide extra cushioning to your toe. They are not only practical and highly durable, but also pretty eye-catching given their metallic hues. Best is to match them with a nice dress or skirt and you are good to go.

Pick up a pair of sandals

Nothing can make your feet happier than resting them in a pair of comfortable, cool sandals that allow your toes and feet to breathe. While the market is flooded with sandals of all kinds and colours, it is best to invest in a pair of braided sandals for the simple reason that they come in numerous colours and look nice with anything, be it a pair of jeans, shorts, or any kind of cool clothes.

Go high this season

High heels don’t suit everyone, and they are not very good for your posture as well. On the other end, high platforms usually suit everyone and offer the added advantage of raising your height, without subjecting you to any discomfort. It is largely because such shoes are so comfortable, that women are today investing in high-top sneakers to match their cool clothes.

Experiment with color

While most women have the usual black, white, cream and tan shades of shoes in their collection, very few experiment with bold, solid colours such as shades of blue, pink or even floral prints. Women in general are put off by bold and bright colours when it comes to shoes because they see these colourful shoes in a stand-alone way. When you do consider buying such shoes, always think of the different dresses you can pair them with. Floral shoes on the other hand offer another advantage of going well with plain, simple dresses as well.

Effective Women’s Self Defense: Developing the Survivor’s Mindset

If you’re serious about developing the ability to survive a brutal attack, one of the first things that you realize is that women’s self-defense also requires the proper mindset. And, the type of mindset that I focus on in this article involves knowing that there are actual threats out there, knowing what they are and the fact that you are at risk, and believing in yourself and your ability to be a survivor should the worst happen to you! If you’re ready to hear what most women don’t want to hear… read on!

When it comes to the subject of Women’s Self Defense – of knowing how to protect yourself against real-world, brutal attackers – this mindset of belief and knowing is the first set of building blocks, along with the Survivor’s Attitude that I spoke about in another article, that form the foundation of effective women’s self-defense!

First and foremost, you have to know and understand that there are actual threats to you, as a woman, that men in general do not have to deal with. You must know this because, it is absolutely true.

That does not mean that these things cannot threaten men, but in general women are more susceptible to them.

Also, that does not mean you should go through life looking over your shoulder in constant fear. As a matter of fact the exact opposite is true. After all…

How could you live a good, stress-free, and happy life if you’re always living in fear?

No. What I mean is that there are dangers out there that women – that you – have to be aware of, because they are a part of your world, and therefor a part of the essence of women’s self-defense. This is what I mean when I teach on the, “Mindset of Awareness.”

Okay, you now know that you need to be aware of all things you have grown to believe in your life are dangerous.

Seems obvious, right?

The question is though, are they the correct things that you “should” be aware of?


Don’t be. In fact, here’s what I mean.

From the perspective or real, authentic, women’s self-defense, you might believe that the most dangerous person or things that you need to be aware of are strangers hiding in the bushes. And, if you did have this belief, then you might be dead wrong (Pun Intended).

The truth is that, the biggest worries that you, as a woman, have to be prepared for are…

…attacks from people who are close to you!

From a police officer’s perspective, I have to say that 99% of calls that I have ever responded to where women were in physical danger or had been in a sexual assault situation…

…were a result of the actions of someone close to them. 99 percent!

Again, this doesn’t mean that you should be afraid of all the people close to you. The women’s self-defense point-of-view is simply that you need to know that, who or what you believe the danger to be…

…really “is” the danger.

Once you have developed the proper beliefs, you must believe in your heart, mind, body and soul that you can overcome any situation no matter where it is or what the circumstances is. To have this kind of belief in yourself, you have to train a little constantly.

That doesn’t mean just physical training. Because, when I say that you must train a “little” – that refers to the physical part – the actual, hands-on, self-defense training that will provide you with the weapons, lessons, techniques and skills for defending yourself against a larger, stronger, and determined assailant…

…and when I said, “constantly”, I’m making the point that you always need to be aware of your surroundings as you go through everyday life. As you develop these skills, and the more they become what we might call, “second-nature,” you will simultaneously develop belief in yourself.

And, that is the key to developing “belief in yourself” within the realm of women’s self-defense.

Three Critical Aspects of the Survivor’s Mindset:

First, you must know and believe that there are threats to you out there in the world.

Second, you have to believe correctly about what those threats are. And…

Third, you must have a deep-seated belief in yourself and your ability to act.

These three things are the three elements of having the proper women’s self-defense mindset. Just remember… mindset isn’t something you’re born with. It’s a learned behavior. And, when it comes to having the survivor’s mindset of a woman who will do everything in her power to defend yourself…

You can, and MUST, learn it!